Thursday, 6 September 2012



Stupid men will not make headlines, successful and intelligent ones will make them and the whole community will want to be them. Stupid women will make headlines as the intelligent and successful women lay low and not make any headlines, they say its not modest. I heard this in today's Big breakfast show by Caroline Mutuko-Kiss 100. I couldn't remember her guest exact words but was something like that and it is one statement am not going to forget for the rest of my life. I definitely don't want  to be any of those two women because i want to make headline, as a successful and intelligent lady, yes the smart way not Kardashy's way, sorry to say.

My little brother and i were watching t.v as our house manager was washing outside, am not a big fun of t.v so i grabbed a magazine and was going through it thinking am the only one checking it out but to my surprise, ''baaba,'' he was calling out to my dad as if he had seen him and if he hadn't mentioned another word i would definitely have thought that he was just him being, well, him, a two year old missing daddy or mummy. He went on to tell me in a language that only us, family, can understand, that he was going to drive that car with dad. actually the first thing he said was that, that car was dad's and i thought to myself, if dad has a car and he is the man in the house and  monkey see, monkey do, as my dad repeats occasionally, then this monkey will definitely ensure that when he is daddy, he will have wot every dad, as he knows should have, right? And the cycle will keep repeating itself, his sons and the sons of his sons.

If monkey sees monkey does, don't you think its your responsibility as a successful woman to nature the young girls in your community and beyond if you can. lets work hard to be successful ladies and make sure the headlines are talking about us, not just for our benefits but for the little monkeys watching us. Let you our young men be with women that will raise girls proud to have a figure to look up to, themselves. Michelle Obama once said ''when you have worked hard, and done well, and walked through that door of opportunity you do not slum it shut behind you. you reach back, and you give other folks the same chances that helped you succeed.''

Friday, 31 August 2012


It hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return,
but what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how  you feel.
Maybe God wants us to  meet a few wrong people before meeting the right ones,
so that, when we finally meet  the right person, we will know how to be great full for that gift.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion and the romance in a relationship and find out you still care for that person.
A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
When the door of happiness closes another opens but often times it looks so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with, never say a word and then walk away feeling, like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
It is true that we don't know  what we've got until we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.
Giving someone all your  love is never an assurance that they will love you back,
don't expect love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if doesn't, be content it grew in yours.
There are things you would love to hear that you would never hear from the person whom you would like to hear them from,
but don't  be so deaf as not to hear it  from the one who says it from their heart,.
Never say goodbye if you still want to try, never give up if you still feel you can go on,
never say you don't love a person anymore if you cant let go.
Love comes to those who still hope although they have  been disappointed,
to those who still believe although they have been betrayed,
to those who still need to love although they have been hurt before,
and to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone,
and a day to love someone,
but it takes a life time to forget someone.
Don't go for looks, they can deceive,
don't go for wealth, even that fades away,
go for someone who makes you smile,
because it takes only a smile to make the dark day seem bright
Hope you find the someone that makes you smile.

#from unknown source(s)#

Wednesday, 22 August 2012


You just got to the school gate and your best friend is there to pick you up, you hand him the laptop bag and he takes it without a second thought and swings it to his back and the next thing that happens… ‘’jesuuuus…’’ you are screaming at the top of your lungs and slowly it becomes hard to get a sound out of you. You don’t believe what just happened, you close your eyes with both your hands deeply hoping you still in the matatu headed to school and that was just a nightmare and  when you open your eyes, your friend is standing next to you so obviously it’s not a dream otherwise he would be seated. The look in his face confirms that what just happened will make you sick, a headache for the least.

‘’what just happened?’’ you get the strength to say something, even though you are sure you know exactly what happened in those few seconds. ‘’your… you know, your bag… you left the zip open and…’’ that’s enough and you don’t say it aloud but with your hands you signal him he has said enough. It’s enough said to let you close your wide open mouth. The next thing you want to do is blame him for not being careful but apparently handing him the bag to carry and letting him know it wasn’t closed is a precaution you should never have taken for granted. it’s you responsibility to ensure you keep you things well and blame game for any matured adult will look really bad, childish!!

What’s next, you too weak to walk and standing feels like carrying a rock at least half you size, probably a metal one. So you seat down and think to yourself as you hope that someone has invented a way to reverse life, an application you can get on any mobile store. ‘’if only… I wish… why me…’’ you thinking and at that moment nothing matters. You look aside and the sight of your laptop in pieces freeze a part of you then heats up your stomach and the internal temperature is just not right, you can feel your wet eyes now and slowly your cheeks to

Where do you start from here, it’s been half an hour since you sat down there, long enough for anyone to get bored and fall asleep but then you begin to get conscious of the stares of the  passing students. ‘’hey!’’ your friend has a worried look but that doesn’t ring a bell and you wondering ‘’you here?’’ that came out aloud for him to answer. He is right by your side. That’s exactly what we all want, to have someone by our side when we feel like the world is against us.

 Assurance that you are not alone is the strength we need to get to a battle, that at the end of this challenge, whether I win or not, there is a shoulder to lean on because we all need somebody to lean on… not solutions or sympathy. Someone taught me to share in silence and that’s a good way to deal with a problem, stay close to each other, thinking of ways to deal with what happened. Being there means a part of you if not the whole of you, cares and wants to be part of the other. Share in silence.

Monday, 20 August 2012


That moment u feel like you own the world, you are so exited and you surrounded by water bubble, colorful balloons and the scent of flowers cloud you and Birds are forming beautiful shapes praising you in a beautiful song. It’s that moment you realize you might just be dead and the bubbles you had, start to burst, the balloons burst out loud one at a time and you can no longer hear the beautiful melodies of those birds above you and as you throw hands all around, you chase away those beautiful butterflies that where making rainbow shapes along and one mistake after another results to a worse moment because you realize that its smelling awful from the mess coming from the many birds you angered when you distracted their choir practice and dance routines and now you realize the flowers didn’t change you just clouded them with the birds mess.

So *Valerie and I were talking about her boyfriend via texts, phone girl talk. They had been dating for a three months and it was at its peak from the start, that was good, until she started recalling her other relationships and how they had grown boring with weeks. She looked at her relationship and couldn’t believe how things were turning out, ‘’How? And how can this man be any different from the rest of them, he must be up to something. ‘’ That was *Valerie acting like any of us and like fate would have it, she lost him. That’s how it works out. She has vowed to get him back but he already moved on and I hate to break it down to her that as much as she is not over him, he found someone who appreciates his goodness and believes in it.

when life gives you lemons, make lemonade out of them  and for the sake of ‘*Valerie’s,’ when you have lemonades, try to come up with flavored lemonades, add color or something because we all know that too much of anything is boring. You going to have to believe that lemonades do exist even if you can’t make that juice, someone can make it and good things don’t always cost you a dime, sometimes you just get it because it’s yours, including someone who loves you for who you are.

Wednesday, 15 August 2012


They are an essential to every ‘girl’. Men may not understand what we carry in our bags or why we have a different bag to work and show up with a different one to a gallery show case. Today I will not give you detailed information about our different bags about I will lower them down to our must haves.
Ladies, here is what every one of us needs to have.

These are common with students and working women and are anciently associated with doctors. They are

2.       HOBO BAG
They are moon shaped made of a soft material and goes well with hobo chic outfit, and long skirts. They are worn casually.

These are literally meant to be clutched and are strictly for formal wear. They are for small essential like lipsticks, mobile phones e.t.c
Also called shopper bags, they are oversized made of soft materials. They are perfect for travelling, running errands, grocery e.t.c

5.       BEACH BAG
They are colorful bags and can be used at the beach, gym and a picnic. Some have plastic linig inside to protect it from moisture.

Monday, 13 August 2012


Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is the first commandment with a promise... this is probably the first verse of the Bible any Christian had to learn as a child if not the second after ’’ for God so loved the world…’’ I missed church yesterday but I surely did not miss to meditate on my earlier sermons back when going to church was dictated by my parents if not the motivation of a new pair of shoes and a long Cinderella dress.

For the sake of anyone who played at the back of the Sunday school class I will remind you of a quality Jesus possessed that I got familiar with yesterday as I had my hair done instead of going to church- not that am proud of this. Jesus was not only an obedient child but also wise in his ways, being the son of a carpenter, he took upon himself to learn this skill his father was so good at and learned it to the level of practicing it. One thing I realized is that this he learned before he took up his career; teaching, that’s what marveled me the most.

How many of us know what our parents do for a living let alone know how it is done? Would you take over their position if a circumstance posed their position vacant? Jesus would probably have taken over before they found a suitable person as the village carpenter, their customer would not have waited for weeks to get their order nor would Mary’s family have gone hungry because of lack of a source of income. Put in mind Jesus purpose on earth was nothing close to a Juakali artisan and he had power to turn wood to any type of tables and chairs and stone to bread.

They say charity begins at home, so should your skills. Learn the skills at home before you gather the rest on your way, they will help you make the right choices as you seek for even more skills. Growing up I also learnt that I should be better than my parents, but how can you be better than someone if you don’t know them?

Saturday, 11 August 2012

How to follow my blog

1.    Visit my blog
2.    Click on the “join this site” button.
3.    A new window will pop out asking you to sign in with an account of your choice.
4.    When you done signing in, an option to either follow publicly or privately appear, make your choice from there and lets grow together

Friday, 10 August 2012


Don’t play with a stale fish or you will smell like one. I don’t know how that just made sense but I know my friend got my point when I told him that. He was talking to me about a fight he had with one of my friend, she is not the worst of my friends but you all know bad doesn’t have to be worse to be a risky business.

 *Sarah is that girl that will get into a fight easily, she will slip right through your fingers and take that your spot and you know that isn’t cool. She is also that friend that you can spend a night with and be sure of some drama, drama is like food or a part of me starves to death, anyway, you want to get wild and crazy and she is just for you and we love her for that and more. *Lewis on the other had is a friend you can spend a day and be sure you won’t get into a conflict or wish you never had a heart so you would trash him, because he is a friend that cares and knows when to push the stop button, however not everything that glitters is perfect, he can be Mr. know it all in a crazy way and it can be a pain in the ass especially when he keeps winning and proving you he was right. This two are my friends but I know one, is the bad fish, am not being judgmental but truth be told, getting into a fight with *Sarah will make him look bad as much as he wants to get things straight with her its better if he just lets go.

A pastor once asked us in church, “if every time someone wrongs you and you make sure they get a piece of you (assuming the mental you), after a couple of years what will you be left with?” I didn’t answer that but I have just realized that by doing so, you build the other and trash a piece of you to a bin you might never recover to retrieve your piece(s).

A fight is not a bad activity but you need to be in a fight that builds you and makes you look good at the end of it all. Choose a good fight and a good partner who you can share not only a fight but also in building each other.

Thursday, 9 August 2012


We all have a  point in our lives that we had an opportunity to make our first step. It was either your first foot step,  cry, loud laughter, new school or even your first relationship. This and more are steps that we take in life, alone or with the support of your close friends and relatives as well as the motivation to prove critics around you wrong, which i think is always a good way to look at life.
I woke up today ready to make a new step. Alone in it and motivated by my own criticism. (it's okay to criticize yourself at time, just don't be to hard on yourself)  With a lot on my mind as i take this step, wondering will anyone follow my blog? Will i.....more and more questions popping and answers were following with "it will work phrase."
I took the step and here i am holding the walls of my new phase and hoping in a short while i will be running around showing the world that 'yes i am strong enough to pull through.'  
Life is about YOU, Love is the emotional part in you life, your heart, and Learning is all about you taking time to understand,whatever it is.